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Thinkpost - As Planned...

Or, slightly more accurately, NOT as planned.

I'm really compelled to look at my life and study it to see all of the little things that have added together to bring me to this point. It is the deadly dull minutae that people don't want to see in their own lives, let alone someone else's. So, not to worry, I'll spare you that indignity. But it does give me reasons to consider things.

It actually relates to one of the novels I'm working on, so I'm hoping writing about the concept will help me kickstart that part of my process, since I'm moving on to those elements of my projects now. So, I'm talking about life analysis. What happened to you?

Think of it like this. We are all personalities. We assume that the most important part of who we are, the substance and stuff that make us ourselves, that's where we begin. But some of us have different propencities. Ever notice how some babies are constantly crying and fearful, while others are giggly and happy? What's that all about? We aren't all the same templated people. We come into the situation with an attitude. So that's part of the equation.

Next, add in experiences. Are we well-nourished, well-cared for, well loved? If so, that creates a different attitude than if one, two or three of the above are missing. This creates our coping mechanism... how we will react to any situation. They say by the age of 7 (SEVEN!) our personalities have been formed. How we will typically react to any situation is in there.

The final part of it: the situations. You could be wealthy or a pauper. Living in a large city in a Developed country or on a desert in the Third World. The actions and reactions that you give are based on where you are and what's happening to you. Multiply this by the approaching 7 Billionish people on the planet and you have a whole lot of actions and reactions going on.

Fear is a problem. Fear stresses you out. And we know that's the root of the word "dis-ease." There's a lot of fear in the world. Fear on the grand scale, for the future of the planet. Fear on the micro scale, like the not finding anyone. There is a lot of fear on this planet. You'd think we could rationalize our fears a bit better. We aren't mice in a field running from a barn owl. We do have some reasoning skills.

A good place to start would be by taking inventory. What have you got going on in your life that's positive. What skills and abilities do you have? Did you ever take time to make a list of EVERYTHING you can do? This goes well beyond a résumé, that's for sure! Every single thing you've done, and every talent from scalp wiggling to toe writing... what a list that would be! How well do you really know yourself? You might be able to do things you forgot you could do!

Knowing yourself is crucial in life. Not knowing everything you can do doesn't allow you to do everything you can! And in this world, you need to do everything you can.

Figuring out what you need to do things is the next step. Sure you could write a novel. But you'd need time to do it. A place to work where you won't be distracted or disturbed. Food to eat, alcohol to drink, an occasional exploration outside to make certain you haven't lost your social skills, and other such things. So, for what you want to do, what do you need? Do you even know what you want to do?

And then, there is the inevitable self-doubt, self-pity, self-destruction.

A lot of this has to do with change. Change is such a difficult thing. We don't like change because it means exiting the "comfort zone" we have locked ourselves into for the time being. Even if our "comfort zone" is unpleasant or worse, sometimes the thought of exiting it for some new unknown is enough to make us resist. On the other hand, there are people who go overboard and commit suicide. That's a little too much change.

The idea is to find a balance, figure out what is needed and make sensible and appropriate changes to our lives in order to get to where we want to go.

And just where is that?

I have to think that if the goal is worthy, the road traveled will be smooth and faster than if not. So, thinking about how it all fits in the grand scheme of life is a good idea as well. Will this concept be accepted by society at large? Will people support what you want to do? And it doesn't even have to be that big an issue, some event that would change everyone's lives... It could just be a small something that improves you, and that improves the moods of people around you, and that radiates.

Just like fear, happiness can also be spread, and there's no secret about the Power Of Positive Thinking.

Thought is energy. There is no doubt about it. So why throw negative energy at yourself?

Sometimes looking back at your life can be good. It lets you see when you when you have done similar things in the past. If you succeeded before, it reminds you that you have already accomplished it, and you can do it again. If you didn't, it allows you the opportunity to study what went wrong and make corrections and alterations to improve your chances this time.

No matter what, you always have you. And if you maintain a positive approach, find a way to get the stuff you need to work properly and you know all of your abilities, it should work out fine.

At least, that's my theory, today.



( 11 comments — Leave a comment )
Aug. 17th, 2005 06:43 pm (UTC)
Thanks for this. xo
Aug. 17th, 2005 06:59 pm (UTC)
Thank you Melody!
Aug. 17th, 2005 06:53 pm (UTC)
minor quibble, but...isn't the population of the world more like 6.5 bil?
Aug. 17th, 2005 06:58 pm (UTC)
Yes, thanks for the typo catch. I note that you often are interested in the stats side of such posts, and not often very vocal about the rest of it. I wonder why that is?
Aug. 17th, 2005 07:04 pm (UTC)
mostly because i tend to internalize the content for later processing, but it's remarkably easy to google up stats. ;)

also because i feel that unless comments are specifically requested, which is not usual for your thinkposts, it's intrusive to barge in on someone else's process.
Aug. 17th, 2005 07:09 pm (UTC)
If he didn't want people barging in on his thought process why post it all over the internet?

Aug. 17th, 2005 07:18 pm (UTC)
if people don't like murder why do they sell guns?

the availability of a resource does not compel a use.
Aug. 17th, 2005 08:01 pm (UTC)
Mm. I can see how you might think that. But actually, I welcome responses, because it's within the interaction that things get resolved. That's why they're called thinkposts... these are just thoughts, some silly, some more down to earth. Sometimes the thoughts could use some tweaking, or enhancing. Sometimes they're just wrong! Support and debate is a part of the process, because it's not really about me, but about trying to find some ideas or answers or to mention the lack of either and maybe someone else has them!

If I don't want comments, I'll disable that feature. Otherwise, knock yourself out. :o)
Aug. 17th, 2005 07:11 pm (UTC)
Ah, this is why I love keeping a livejournal. It gives me space to evaluate who I am and keep a careful record from month to month of myself. It works so much better for me than a hand written journal because I can quickly type at the speed of my thoughts.

By the way, I loved your little segue from fear to disease. I never dissected the word like that before!
Aug. 17th, 2005 07:55 pm (UTC)
It's true. I really can't write in paper journals much anymore. I'm so much more motivated to write something here. Not to mention there's no chance of running out of space, as I frequently did in my paper journals.

And that's a well-placed icon. Nice!
Aug. 17th, 2005 08:26 pm (UTC)
No chance of running out of space and plenty of time to edit and re-edit until you really get out the idea that you want. So many times I start to type a totally different post run off on a tangent and I rather make the post about the tangent and scrap the rest.
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